My purpose today and every new day is to ‘manage my emotions’.
Calm and satisfied emotions gives me peace of mind, a good state to offer a client.
In my archives I have a recording of my client A reading from the “Instructions for Life” from the Dalai Lama’s “Comments On The Millennium”. Sadly the reception is poor as it was recorded in the spur of a moment during a treatment session, however if I strain my ears I can hear his every word.
The one instruction today that really stands out of this recording is:
Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
I have willingly given up ‘being shy’ of sharing my opinions to a wider audience for
fear of rejection.
Rejection is a powerful emotion and when I gave it ‘no power’ to harm me, I feel so liberated from voluntary silence and speak my truth with greater freedom.
Rejection has such a deep impact on our general well being, a unsatisfied need to belong, will inevitably lead to problems in our behaviour, it will increase levels of anxiety and depression as it is directly proportional to the level of rejection we perceive.
In my experience I have found that those who have been rejected will suffer from more negative emotions, and have less positive emotions than those who have been accepted until of course they start to make a change.
Having poor relationships and being more frequently rejected can shorten our lives. As long as a decade after a marriage ends, divorced women have higher rates of illness than their non-married or currently married counterparts.
The immune system tends to take a major impact when a person experiences rejection, more colds and flu and time of work. This can cause severe problems for those with diseases such as HIV One study by Cole, Kemeny, and Taylor investigated the differences in the disease progression of HIV positive homosexual men who were sensitive to rejection compared to those who were not considered rejection sensitive.The study, which took place over nine years, indicated significantly faster rate of low T helper cells therefore leading to an earlier AIDS diagnosis. Interestingly, they also found that those patients who were more sensitive to rejection died from the disease an average of 2 years earlier than their non-rejection sensitive counterparts.
The systolic and diastolic blood pressure readings increase upon imagining a rejection scenario.Those who are socially rejected have an increased likelihood of suffering from tuberculosis as well as dying by suicide. Rejection and isolation were found to impact levels of pain following an operationas well as other physical forms of pain.
We reject our own needs mainly out of habit, how many times in a day to do hear folk say “I haven’t got the time…..”We have the time but we choose to be victims of our own old habits! Carers and therapists are very good at caring for others but can be hopeless at looking after themselves.
Where does this leave us knowing rejection is harmful? Where can we go from here?
Positive Outcome: • letting go • triggers healthy grieving
• releases deep held grief and sadness
Make 40 minutes to listen to Glenn Harrold’s Solfeggio Sonic Meditation that resonates to a frequency of 417z. This particular frequency works to dissolve emotional patterns and imprints from the past and facilitate positive changes. It will also help to clear other emotional patterns, such as low self-esteem, self-rejection, overindulgence, jealousy and emotional instability, all of which exist within the same vibrational energy.
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Let me bring you back to A, my client. He aimed to live by the values quoted by the Dalai Lama ( see complete list below) and was a very wise gentleman and for me he lives on in my memory each time I follow his lead.
In my experience each client gives their wisdom not only to me but to every other client in the practice. Do you agree or disagree?
Instructions for Life
Conclusion: Self Care and learning on the job is a wonderful tool to keep us connected and safe.
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Email : rosieglow3@me.com